Yes, I agree your W is not thinking clearly. Why in the world would she think you'd still pay for everything? I did this to my H a couple of months ago. I put it all out on the table in black and white. We would have to sell our house (which we can barely afford together and definitely couldn't apart), I would get an apartment and a full time job, kids would live with me but would have to be placed in before and after school care, blah, blah, blah. I guess it didn't paint a very pretty picture as H kept saying that he didn't want that for his family and he knew that the grass wasn't greener.... You're a smart person, you fully understand the consequences of a seperation, now to get your W to understand without being controlling, vindictive or manipulating.
I also understand how difficult and painful it is trying to save your M when there is a triangle (3 people). You have to let your W's R with OM fizzle out on its own with no interference from you.
Keep being the best Muddle that you can be, with morals, good values and integrity. Take care of yourself and your precious son!
