I know what you're saying Muddle. My W, as you know, has built up a great deal of resentment towards me and, to be honest, I don't get a lot of it. Example, she said I wasn't "romantic" enough so I started to do romantic things (pre- A, of course) e.g.'s send flowers, leave little notes, write ILY on her lunch banana!!! (Ya, I did) and was told "stop doing these things, they just aren't you! You only do them because you know I'll like them" Same sitch, if I do them it is wrong, if I don't I'm not romantic! You can only do what feels right to you and F*** her. Basically, your W and mine DON'T want to see the good in us. They want to confirm that we are not meant to be with them. They will look for whatever supports that as insane as it can be sometimes. Lastly, who knows what the therapist "really" says, you only know what your W tells you and you know where her head is at these days. Don't waste emotion and energy on the Therapist. You can only deal with what is in your hands to deal with.
