Yup, it's all about consistency. She'll see and understand soon enough. W is still in the trap of thinking she can attribute all responsibility for a negative feeling onto me, cut me loose and she'll be free of that feeling. Sorry. She's so stressed about the situation, she takes it out on me, I become the reason for it because she associates it with me, so she needs to be rid of me to be rid of the stress. Ok.
The no grounds thing is that we don't have no fault in NY, so in order for her to file we need 1 yr separation. We haven't signed an agreement, in fact, we decided that she would get on her feet financially before we revisited the subject. So, as far as I'm concerned, we're moving along as planned. She's just emotional and taking it out on me. I think she's more and more aware that she isn't doing what she needs to to acheive her goals. Sad.
I told her she can leave, separation or none, divorce or none. She doesn't think so. She thinks she'll give up custody if she does, which she will. Same old trouble. That's her issue, and I'm not really going to concern myself with it at this point. Frankly, I think there's some pressure coming from OM that she can't take, or there's something about him and their plans that is outside of her expectations, and that's where her stress is coming from.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
