One thing to remember about setting boundaries is that she isn't going to jump up and down in joy and thank you for setting them. She will resist initially, "I'll talk to you any damn way I want". Again, just let her know that yes, she can but if she does it rudely this is what you will do e.g. walk away. Maybe give that a little longer and be firm about it, can't hurt. She is so angry, isn't she! My W at least thinks that I am what I am and that's that. Despite the unfairness (and who says life is fair) it's sometimes easier to take then someone whose downright mean and in your face all the time. What's the thing about not having frounds for divorce? She can leave anytime with or without a divorce! Do what you gotta do, Muddle.
