That's exactly what I am determined to do. I am not sure whether it will help anything, but it will certainly be a step in the right direction regarding my personal boundaries and will help protect my self respect in a proactive way rather than defensively, the way I currently deflect it onto her, who could care less.
When I left work I went and got a pizza. I was thinking about my W and how much she does and how my schedule has prevented her from doing anything. I went out and picked up a card for her, a simple thank you. I wrote her a note acknowledging all she has done in the past week or so, and how much it's appreciated. I gave her a "get out of jail free" card. This entitles her to me changing my plans to watch S4 a few times. I think it's the least I can do, and she never feels like she can ask me to, so this gives her license.
I got home and she was IMing with OM. She was somewhat tearful, and I could tell something was going on, even though she tried to tell me earlier that I was the only problem in her life. Not sure what that's about, but I've learned that it doesn't matter. At this point, even if their relationship disintegrated it means little to nothing about ours. I think. It's really hard to find the line between moving forward and pennance for my wrongdoing in the relationship (which I feel like she wants from me, or feels entitled to). Oh well. At least it's the weekend!
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
