Hey Muddle, What would happen if you just told your W that you refuse to accept rude behaviour anymore and then tell her how you will respond e.g. walk away next time it happens. If she has an issue maybe she can address it in an adult manner and you would be glad to respond. The way she speaks to you just irks me and I know it does more than that to you. Maybe this is what you take your stand on, communication. You can't make her love you but you can expect some respectful communication. Instead of reacting you would be seen as proactive and a man taking a stand (isn't that what she says she wants?) It might be a real 180 or have I gone stark raving mad here?
