Quote: The idea was that both people in the marriage were not getting their needs met when the A started. It's likely that the WAS was the first one with the opportunity to have an A, not that their values or morals were weaker. We as LBSs have no idea whether we would have become WASs ourselves had our spouses not beaten us to it.
I offer the other side of ford's argument, b/c I completely and totally agree with this quote. There but for the opportunity (and the grace of God), I would have had an A, secondary to next-to-zero of my needs being met in my M. I was just a SAHM to preschoolers with no opportunity to be validated by another man and fall down the rabbit hole, while H's job had him traveling extensively across the US and working closely with lots of people, many women, including the eventual OW.
Now, ironically, I am back in the workforce and my head is out of the Mommy role and there is potential male attention everywhere. Tempting, that. But I sit and wait on my H, and ultimately the Lord, to move this situation where He would have it be.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
