Heya Muddle. <There's something interesting that I read recently talking about this. It leads me to believe that what you seem to be attributing to character differences might be association after the fact. The idea was that both people in the marriage were not getting their needs met when the A started. It's likely that the WAS was the first one with the opportunity to have an A, not that their values or morals were weaker. We as LBSs have no idea whether we would have become WASs ourselves had our spouses not beaten us to it. >
I think this last thing is horse hockey. I really doubt that a marriage exists where all the needs of both partys are met. when WAS use this to excuse thier affair, I say "Horse Hockey"
Muddle, were all your needs met prior to the bomb? prolly not, did you go pick up and babe, do the nasty, then go beat the wife over the head with it using the excuse "you didn't complete me"? so I think us LBS can take the moral blue ribbon here
Muddle, you're a good guy and don't deserve abusive treatment. when we're down, it's easy to make us feel like since we didn't always help with the laundry and then write a poem for them, it's our fault they lie, cheat and abuse. "Horse Hockey"
