I know someitmes I start thinking maybe it would be better for the M if we were apart! I know if I were not here my W would be living one challenging existence and it might blow her little dream world out of her head. But, then again, she might just resent the hell out of me for putting her in that position. Who's to know. Somehow I feel safer in staying where I am and working from here but, again, I'm not you nor am I living your life. Damn, it's hard to just not be affected by what they do or say! Detach yet work on the relationship??? Whew, It sounds like oil and water sometimes, doesn't it. I know I continue to allow my W's moods etc to effect my mood, even when I know it's happening. She decided it was "clean the kids rooms" weekend. You can imagine how that went! The kids loved it My W had just worked eight extra hours on her job Sat (was exhausted and not feeling well physically)and yet decides Sun IS cleanup day. That's that. It was one pissy day, I was on the verge of telling her to F Off (one of the kids did on their recent vacation together! First time for everything). I was thinking "Why am I letting this person control my mood?" yet I did. Oh well, to ponder...to ponder. In the evening it improved as we watched the movie"Take the Lead" (dance movie, she was happy!)together. So, I know where you're coming from with this detachment thing. Maybe somebody out there has some ideas on detaching that both of us could use. Take care, Muddle

Divorced February 27, 2012.

"Only by love is love awakened".~ Ellen G White