I hope you are really understanding and absorbing the good advice you are getting here. Sometimes I think you want people to give you specific instructions about what to do and exactly how to respond to your dirtbag husband, but the advice you are getting is about much deeper issues and if you follow it, you won't have such a difficult time handling Kevin when he calls or does something retarded.
I hope you realize how important it is for you to learn that you must take control of yourself and your family, and that you can't control Kevin. You are making your own drama here---waiting for Kevin to call and flying off the handle and whatever crap he vomits from his mouth. Sit down, think really hard about what you want from your husband and tell him what he has to do to get you back, and in the mean time, while he is proving his love and committment to you, you are securing the care for your girls (regardless of what promises come out of his mouth, never compromise on his financial support of your children) and taking care of your self. Make a choice to move forward with your life with out him (I don't mean divorce, you don't need to divorce him to move forward.) Please, show your girls that they have strong dependable role model in life, someone who can kick the obstacles life throws out of her way.
There are so many inspirational stories here, of people who learn to take care of themselves while their spouses are in a crazy fog or working through a MLC. Get motivated from them! Start to think about what you want, you deserve to follow *your* dreams, not just sit around and wait for him to change, make a decision or whatever.
My advice to you is this: if he calls talk about the girls, don't bring up your M. Whatever he says to you, stay strong with your boundaries-- it's great that he wants to put your name on the bank account, but it doesn't change the fact that he has to support his children. All his promises, proclamations of love and so on, just remember he doesn't have good track record, and if h really means it, he will not have problem showing you OVER TIME how serious he is. Remember, talk is cheap.
