Quote: What DO I do if he calls? Do I tell him I CAN'T talk or WON'T talk . . . or do I pretend like I can't hear him . . say hello a few times (like I can't hear him reply) and hang up . . then not reanswer if he calls back ? How do I react?
If he calls you, then let him talk. Just be quiet and listen - don't react. Be sure you end the call first - I have to go ..(something on the stove, in the middle of a good book, studying for a course, baby is crying....). If he brings up the R or M - then listen and validate (I understand how you are feeling.....).
Right now your H is not thinking clearly so he will be all over the map. Just don't let him control the knobs on the roller coaster - which is what I think you have done before. You control the ride or lack there of. So avoid the ride. If he starts going to a place you are not ready to talk about - simply tell him that. But I think for like 1 month - you should have no contact unless you need something from him (which you really don't right?) or if there is an emergency with the girls you think he should know about. But try to not talk to him at all of one month - at least you shouldn't call. If he calls, don't answer the phone (I don't think you have caller id). Let him leave a message. If it is that important, he will leave a message. Please keep in mind, this is my 2 cents!
