Sorry to hear about your situation, but you've come to the right place.
Quote: "My search is for advice on my current state of mind. I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that my wife plans to divorce me and I'm feeling that with all of the outside influences that there is nothing I can do to redirect her thought process"
I'm going to be pretty honest here.....I don't think you truly believe there is nothing that you can do to save your marriage. You would not have posted here and read the books if you thought that, with that being said, Nothing is hopeless.
Here's a few questions for you to think about:
1) Are you thinking W is going to file D just because other people say so? If so, you may be assuming. W has not told you this directly, and you thought it may be done on your trip, and it wasn't. Don't assume anything with your S right now.
2) You mentioned about setting goals in the past. What were they and did you accomplish them. Were they too easy if you achieved them quickly or too hard if you did not accomplish them.
3) Think back to why your W fell in love w/you. What were you doing during the good times of the R? What has changed since then?
4) Have you been too needy in your M? That was my big problem with my W, and is a huge turnoff to her.
In any case, these are just things to think about. i'm sure you'll get much better advice then this here, but this may get you started....good luck
JJ
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