If you really want to turn things around, you can do it!!! Don't ask W to read Db or DR. You alone can change the dynamics of the R and how she responds to you. I noticed the greatest change in my sitch during the first few weeks of DBing.
Actions speak louder than words, so it's ok that she's not talking much. In fact, don't get into ANY R discussions at all. Make a list of things that you want to change and start changing them. Become a better person. Where do you start? Make a list of things that she has complained about and change what you have control over.
Check your ego at the door. It's not about you. She's going through something. Don't argue or try to defend yourself...just validate.
Don't pursue. Don't try to convince her how much you love her and want her to stay. She already knows and it will just push her right out the door.
Have an "as if" attitude. Act as if everything is going to turn out fine.
These are a few things for starters. Hope it helps.
Christine
JJ
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