Sorry you are here but hopefully you will find people who can help you save your marriage and support you during the process.
I am no expert but I will tell you my thoughts. I've found it really helps to read others' threads to get an idea of what works but obviously everyone's situation is unique.
Quote: My W and I occasionally have contact on the phone and usually I am the caller. Is this counter-productive to DBing?
Not if she seems receptive to the calls. Just try and guage her reactions. If she doesn't seem to want to talk end the call quickly and back off for awhile.
Quote: She often talks about me getting involved with other women, and this hurts me so much. How should I respond to these comments?
I would respond simply that you are not ready to think about that at this time. You would prefer to work on yourself and hopefully your marriage instead.
Quote: She says that we are friends, which is great, but how do I know when to bring it to the next level?
Wish I had an answer for that one as I am working on that myself. My advice is don't rush it. You may need to be friends for awhile and let her notice the changes in you.
Quote: My wife hasn't taken off her wedding ring; she says she is afraid that people will ask questions. Which is something I don't understand, any ideas?
Wedding Ring dilemma. Be glad she is wearing it and don't question why. My W took hers off right after she left and it really hurts to this day. I have stopped wearing mine because I've lost so much weight it no longer fits. I wrestle daily whether I should get it resized and start wearing it again. At the same time, I don't want to pressure W. It's sort of the same as no longer telling her you love her. Obviously you do but telling her makes her feel the need to respond and thats not good.
Hope I have helped and good luck!
JJ
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