As I was saying on someone else's thread it is frightening how similiar our situations are. I can take some things right out of your sitch except the OW has never called me but I can always sense when the manipulations and ultimatums come because H moves back home and then pulls more toward being with her once they reconcile. And Ow talks about how he calls constantly until she acquiesec to take him back.
OW feels she does not have to call me since he has left me to be with her. (they live together but he thinks that I don't know).
Count your blessings that you don't have children. I have a S3 and it has been hell on him. I'm like you in that I have mucho contact with H (because of S3) and In fact we share a vehicle and although the affair has been going on since Mar 04 and he moved out Aug 04 we have only stopped being intimate in the last two months.
He has also been pressing me to file for D because he has no grounds but I say if you want a D you file. Since the last incident two weeks ago, H has been very distant. Just try not to get sucked into the rollecoaster although it is easier said than done.
