Thanks Free-to-Be, I know you're right, in that I have to not react to WH. I would so like to be able to understand and have some of this whole thing make some kind of "sense" to me, even when I know that there is no logic or sense behind a wayward spouse ! Probably shouldn't have gotten so upset and called to let WH know about OW continuing to call here last week- I was just so tired of "not" reacting, and them both just doing whatever they want without a thought to me or my feelings. Guess a part of me hoped he would see what an inmature, unbalanced, slimey person he'd involved with, for her to call and leave insults and lies on his wife's phone !
I do think WH seemed sincerely suprised that OW was still calling here. He knew about her calling constantly back when he moved home and we had a brief "false" recovery earlier in the year- even heard some of her foul-mouthed, poor grammar, trashy messages for himself, and told me to "consider the source" when I asked why she would do such a thing !! Her calling seems to directly related to she and WH fighting, although I've never figured out if she calls here trying to figure out if he's here with me (she's very paranoid), if she's trying to just "bait me" to talk to her so she can get in some more insults and obscenities, or if she is trying to get more "dirt" on WH to use against him when she's mad- doesn't make much sense ?????
I think it's odd that WH told me to block her number so she couldn't call here- but then realized he probably REALLY doesn't want us talking- OW might found out more things he has lied about. He may not have even said anything to her about it- after all he told me before that she still did "whatever she wants".
Don't know if my telling him about it has anything to do with it or not, but I've not heard anything from WH for a week now. It's the longest he's ever gone without contacting me, and I feel very "mixed" about it- on one hand it's a relief that I don't have to try to think of how to act, or what to say, and on the other hand it scares me because it makes me feel like he's so detached he doesn't think or care for us at all. ????
Tomorrow will be the second year I've celebrated a birthday without WH, and I feel very sad about it. Don't know if he will remember at all, or do anything, and am trying to plan that he won't hoping I'd feel less disappointed, but I know it will still hurt. Last year, I didn't hear from him at all and thought he'd forgotten, but got home from work and he'd left roses and a card at the house !
