Thanks, Amy. I appreciate that you took time to read through my long post and give your thoughts. I agree with you and Spitfire as well, that things need to change. I know I can't change anything that H does, so I can only change me, just have had a hard time in figuring out what to do differently. I admit it is scary to do something differently, go against "instinct" and break old habits, but after being stuck in this same pattern and mess for this long, I'm ready to do something different, and going "dark" is it. We do occassionally need to communicate regarding finances, since H still pays towards our house and expenses and we still have some joint bank accounts. Would you suggest I handle this via email, keeping it short and business-like ?
It will be hard, as I love my H and miss our life very much and talkin to him has kept a little hope alive and kept me from missing him as much, but I will keep reminding myself that this "alien" is not my H, and not a friend. I hope you both will continue to give me feedback, thoughts, practical ideas and support Thanks, Slammed
