Whew. That post was LONG. It WAS important to give the background though so I'm really just teasing you, slammed.
I've gotta tell you, by the time I got to the end of that first post, I was already screaming inside.
STOP TALKING TO THIS MAN NOW!
DON'T HAVE ONE MORE SECOND OF CONTACT WITH THAT PIECE OF CRAP POOR EXCUSE FOR A WOMAN, EITHER!!
Starting right now you need to go dark. There is no strategy. You have become a doormat. You will remain that way until YOU do something to change it. I can tell you are a very smart woman so I bet you already know you need to do this. Well, you have me and Spitfire both telling you the same thing. STOP talking to him. No more lunches or dinners, either. He is not your friend right now so stop acting like he is (sorry, I know that is harsh but it is true). Do NOTHING to help him divorce you. Accept no phone calls, do him no favors.
NONE.
THIS is how you will take back control of your life and hopefully he will soon wake up and start trying to clean up this mess he has made of your marriage.
You must now take care of yourself and let him fall on his face.
