I think you and your H are way too wrapped up in each other. He wants you, then he doesn't. His GF probably blames their problems on his still being married. He keeps yoyoing between the two of you.
I think you need to go dark. I wouldn't answer the phone, emails, nothing. He needs a chance to miss you, which he hasn't had since you are in almost constant contact.
If he wants a D, let him do all work. Tell him you don't want it but you won't stand in his way. Don't sign an "acknowledgement" Make him file.
You have been way too nice, IMHO. He needs to feel the consequences of his choices. What are you afraid of? That you may lose him forever if you stand up to him a little? Do you really want him, the way he is now?
I'm trying to understand where you are coming from. Where I'm sitting, I think you are being a doormat and letting this very confused man walk all over you. Set some boundaries.
Wish I could be more helpful. This is a horrible spot you are in right now. How long you stay there is up to you.
Hang in there.
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
