I can't say I needed to work too hard to seduce my husband away from the OW. I didn't have as difficult a time with this as others might have because she was married and lived in another state (so once the class they were in together was over she had no other reason to travel to California. He does have to fly out to her area for work on rare occassions, but after I informed her husband about the affair that seemed to bury it). Their relationship was doomed from the start. But in some ways I guess you could say I did have to seduce him from the "idea" of dating others. When he left he told me he was fully intent on plenty of dating, but once he had that freedom he never seemed to do very much (if any!) dating. He spent much more time with family members, guys from work and being alone (and very very gradually "dating" me).
But a very close friend of mine did this. And she did it while her husband was living in another state! They were married for over 20 years and his affair was with a very young woman. They did file for divorce, but then put it on hold. He was handsome, and had been a famous athelete. He used to fly in to see the kids. She read a lot of books on saving her marriage, relationships, etc... In general she's an amazing person and a very devout Christian. Anyhow, they had a strong physical connection so whenever he was in town visiting they would be drawn to each other. Eventually the OW became very jealous of his wife!!! In time he broke off the relationship with OW, started valuing his marriage and and even commented to his wife how he could understand why second marriages often fail (the difficulties of split-up families).
So..... I do believe this type of thing can be done.
Don't worry about hijacking my thread!!! Feel free to share your sitch here.
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