Thanks Cat for posting that. I'm going to add it to what I've already printed out.

Matilda2,
I've been printing out information on this site that helps me. I have a thin notebook I'm adding the pages to,I think I'll keep the whole thing with my journal, and use them together like a workbook along with a "map" of where I want to go.

Back when I started DBing (when my husband moved out and was committed to divorce), I did the same thing with that advice. All the GALing, 180s lists, last minute techniques, detaching, etc.... I'd print it out, read and reread it, and just try to incorporate it in my life. I'll add that stuff as well because it's all useful. Eventually I'm realizing one needs to be a relatively healthy, well-rounded, and independent individual to have strong healthy relationships.

This is definitely not easy. It's a lot of work and there's a lot to learn.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.