hmmmm, as much as I'd want more questions to be answered, they really don't help, they just lead to more questions and more anger on my part, ei: I wanted to know where he went w/her for Christmas --found out he used an online place to buy 100$ tickets to somewhere Wanted to know where they went exactly --found out they went to see ballet "the nutcracker"
Do I feel any better? NO, I get sick when I hear anything ballet or nutcracker related. It also keeps the affair fresh and doesn't give either of us the chance to forget. So the bulk of my questions were somewhat answered during a few terrible arguments. It always set us back, any progress we made it ruined it.
I was one terrible snooper, and each new tidbit would just sicken me more (I'm pretty sure he bought the same shampoo for her that I use, now I hate that brand) So pretty much the more info you get the worse it is.
My H did say "im not ready to talk about the A yet" so I asked him "so when will you be?" and he's like "I don't know, I want to forget all about it" soooooooo, he is just going to bring it up and maybe it is better this way.
I'm all for posting what we learn from books, so please if you have any other info put it up. I did get "embracing each other" but didnt' like it, too much psychologic linguo, lots of inner child talks, didnt' care much for it, on the look for a better one.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
