Hey, want to share something kind of interesting from the "Not Only Friend's" book. I think many of us here (including me!), have questions about the OP and sometimes it's uncomfortable to ask them... well one idea from the book is filling out the questions on small pieces of paper which you fold up. These papers are then put into a fishbowl and every so often, when the spouse feels comfortable with this, they can pull out a piece of paper and answer a question. If they are uncomfortable with that question they can put it back in and take out another. Eventually (hopefully) all the questions get answered. In the example cited in the book, the spouse eventally one day decided to go through all of the questions and answer them.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
