Well, I've never cheated but as a man when I read your "because it's familiar" statement your H made, it sounds to me like something I've said to (and about) my wife many times over the years, namely, that "home is wherever my wife is."

I'm not saying that's how your H looks at it, but even when my wife and I weren't getting along at all months and years ago, that's what I thought and felt in my heart. At some point along the way, home stops being where your parents are or where you grew up and becomes (for me, anyway) wherever my wife is. Which is one reason I think this stuff is hard on us H's who are faithful...when our W's cheat or leave us, they've taken our home away, and we freak out.

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'