How to Piece????

[kaydeekay]

Running,

Everything I've read about your sitch sounds so familiar to mine. H and I have been married 12.5 years. H did file for D a year ago and I too dragged me feet. H was in PA with OW for nearly a year. They lived together for about 10 months off and on. He was back and forth between OW and me. After they broke up last October/November 2005 he would have contact with her now and then. Just this past Friday H told me that he doesn't give her second thought now, whereas OW used to consume his every thought. H even told me she tried to contact him at his job and he told her to leave him alone and hung up on her.

Last night I saw him and asked him why he would want to reconcile. His answer was "because it's familiar." Does that seem like a good enough reason? Am I expecting too much?

I've been told this too in so many words. H has dated other women since he broke off with OW. He has told me that he has tried to get over me but something always brings him back to me. He also said he compares other women to me and they just aren't me. I don't H back because I'm so familiar...I want him back because he wants to commit to the marriage 100%.

I too struggle with the question "Can this M work" after nearly 19 months of separation? H is presently living with family in another city but does call me every day and just recently started coming around to spend time with me. We started ML frequently this past month.

I currently don't have a thread, more of a lurker I will check on your thread to see if you have any positive results and if I have any I'll post here.