"Those are the things between you and I that I like"!!! WTH? I've had that convo with my W too. Suggesting maybe her A is so wonderful because of all the stuff that isn't involved in it such as bills, kids, etc. Made no dif. I find trying to reason with them in this state is useless. That's why DB is wonderful because it thrives on actions versus words much of the time. DB never says "sit down and have a nice talk about how unreasonable and unrealistic your S's actions are". There's a reason for that! It is hard though to escape R talk when the S seems to want to do it. Mine never does, thank God. I once told her I would not enter into such discussions if the topic was to be a listing of my defecits (and that seemed to be the entire content of it). If she ever wanted to discuss how to work together on fixing issues, I was there o/w don't bother. I can't fathom how they see this as a good way to live???? Oh well, I guess we just carry on. Good furniture is to be seen and not heard!
