Hijack away, cat. No prob!

Well, we sort of looked at it and decided the following:

--sex gets in the way and can make things seem worse than they are, and it's better to have it (since we are married after all) so it doesn't add any pressure and with the attitude that it could be a way for God to bless us and bring us closer

--we don't need any new baggage in addition to what got us to this point, and since she believes in doing her part, sex is necessary to help save our marriage, (remember the Seinfeld episode ), and is part of "acting as if" (luckily for me)

So, we decided that since we're not at a point where she can get caught up in the moment, we would just go ahead and decide to ML on Tues, Thurs, and Sundays (cause she's in an especially good mood on Sundays), and a little extra fooling around on Saturday mornings as the mood strikes.

That way we keep it as part of our "recreational companionship" so to speak, but take away the anxiety over feelings, responding the right way, etc.

We're hoping that over time spontaneity will take over. In the meantime, basic needs are met.

Hey, it ain't ideal, I know, but we're doing so well in all the other areas (kids, church, home, projects, etc.), we didn't want to create a black hole in this one.

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'