Quote: regardless of what I'm getting from her. I don't pursue her much
I read your post and I see so many good things going on w/you both (praying together, doing things together) it gives me some hope. She seems to be opening bit by bit.
I wish I could have your same strenght about not pursuing, it is so hard since we only see each other Fri night, Sat and Sun due to his training. I want so much to ML w/him every chance (which are few w/2kids) and I also know his mind isn't on sex right now. He does ML back, he initiates some times but not at the rate I'd wish, it's mostly me. I'm thinking of cutting back a bit, I always expect and initiate on Fri night, he's said before he is very tired from the whole week (which never stoped him before). I already told him I'd settle for cuddling if he is too tired, so I'll try that tonight, just cuddle and if he doesnt' go anywhere I must work VERY hard at not being dissapointed.
Wish we had more time to do things together, with kids and 2 days it is hard. We did talk during C about how his new job/training is very draining on him and pretty much drew him out of depression, this might be the best job he might ever get (if he fails the training he is out, very stressful). I know he isnt' purposefully putting "us" aside, he is trying to get this done.
I hope I can survive, training might last 'til March!
Sorry for the hijack! but I'm honestly happy for all your progress, I hope I'm on that stage in a few more months
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.