Quote: I also feel like I'm running on empty, giving but not receiving, H never acknowledges my positive traits,
Me too!!!!!!!!! I feel exactly the same way and I envy OW all the phone calls she got from my husband who hates talking on the phone and never in 21 years ever called me as much!!!
Actually it's kind of reassuring to hear that this is somewhat typical of these spouses.
ToughLover, I don't know if anyone else has recommended this book to you before but I think it's called "The Passionate Marriage." I've heard it's very good. I think it might be a Christian book as well. BTW, from what I've read, most women don't have orgasim without clitorial stimulation. That's very normal.
I agree with all the other posters here that it's probably going to take awhile for your wife to get those feelings back. My husband's not good with the ILYs either. I'm hoping I'll eventually hear them, but I'm not expecting it for awhile. In the meantime just have fun and don't be hesitant to give love. I don't think we lose anything by giving to others.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
