W Never Left, But This Is Tough!

[cat03]

But I'm still not getting the ILY's, so I'm not giving them either...but I AM demonstrating my love, just not saying it. Think that's the way to go in this sitch?
It's wierd...I'm getting the sex, but not the ILY's...in all honesty, I'd rather have the ILY's, if I had to choose between the two.

Just counted how long my H has been back, FIVE months, no ILY ever, I say them now and then, I rather not say them often because I know he doesnt' feel that way yet. But I won't withhold my affection, we ML and he seems to enjoy it, we both initiate though it isnt' like before, any chance he got he'd get his hands on me-- now, I could be wearing next to nothing and hugging him and it would be a long while before he does something

Don't despair, 2 mths is still to early, after he came back to me my H was trying to contact OP just to ask why she had broken it off so badly, even sent her an expensive bouquet of flowers on her bday... they do need a while to wean themselves off the OP. So you are on the right track, frustrating yes, but you are on the right track, hold her hand, be affectionate and dont' ask any love questions yet.

I also -all modesty aside- think I look so much better than before, we went to a wedding last sunday, I prob looked nicer than most women there, we had a great time, but he only mentioned fleatingly that he thought I looked pretty... I remember all those notes to OP about how "beautiful" she was, how he couldnt' stop complimenting her, and it does hurt.

Then again, remember, they were using OP as their "fix", an addiction, we are the real thing.

What I want is for her to come to me some day and just say, "Honey, I was so stupid...

I stopped holding my breath for that one, as it is, my H is trying to collect himself, it might prob a while, if ever, for him to acknowledge my suffering, most likely he won't every bring it up so he can bury the past for good.

hang in there, fight the good fight, keep looking sharp, dont' you feel better about yourself? you not only put yourself back in shape for her but for you, you deserve it.