Just keep it going! She will change if you continue your change. I had almost the same exact sitch. But it was a guy she grew up with. The no contact thing is got to happen! Right now her heart’s with the OM and her Mind is with you! Her mind will eventually tell her heart not to leave. Also GAL, she needs to see you moving on to scare her, or bring her to reality. Walk a way spouses think only about them selves (they are the victim, not you! and because of all the pain you have caused them, for them to act this way it is justified) ILBNILWY is crap she married you, it’s just she gets the butterflies with the OM b-cuz it’s new & not you. That’s why affairs only last about 6 months to a year, after the newness is gone and they have to deal with real life (kids, bills, tickets, illness, etc..) and come down from the fantasy. Once the OM is out of the picture, & she has had sometime to grieve, she will realize what she has done, and she will have guilt and you have got to take the high road. At this point she will need you the most, because she will know that after what she did you should leave and she doesn’t want you to but she can’t really say anything about it if you did. She will need constant reinforcement of your love and commitment to her; you would think it would be the other way around!
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
