Sorry I haven't gotten back to you yet - I was traveling most of the day, today.
I haven't read your thread yet so I will only offer the following advice at this time:
Mediation is a means by which an ungly court divorce can be avoided. If kept civil and amicable, not only will you save yourselves a lot of $$ but you may get to remain friends in teh long run.
I think the opportunities that are presented by mediation are largely affected by the mediator. I know very little about court ordered mediation although I have heard rumor that some may require court ordered marriage counseling. That said, my mediator is one that believes in resolving things in a win-win manner. While this will likely not stay the execution of my marriage, it will hopefully bring some understanding and peace between W and I.
For you, I can only offer that you will only get out of mediation what you put into it. If you go in without a desire to cooperate and find a win-win solution, then mediation will likely be a waste of time.
I'm sorry I can't offer more right now - especially without knowledge of your sitch . Like I said before, if you have specific questions or would like to talk, contact me at cherrishher at yahoo.com (note the mispelling of "cherish"...W pointed it out to me and I can't help but leave it misspelled to get her goat
Good luck tomorrow - Tuna, it's not the end my man, just a new chapter!!
