The Shrink that XW and I were seeing prior to the bomb (I kept going on my own- she said SHE DIDN'T NEED TO GO ANYMORE ON HER OWN!) anyway he said she was emotionally immature and acting like an adolescent....
The first C I took my D15 to see last summer met w/ W and later told me that it seemed like there was a PEER relationship w/ D instead of a Parent/Child relationship.
Then the C daughter was seeing this past winter met w/ just W and D.... Told me later that she was very disturbed that W seemed to be very immature and she felt like she was sitting in a room w/ TWO teenage girls. Even went so far as to call W "emotionally stunted"!
But hey, it's all my fault! All b/c I had an A in 1989, said it was an EA and denied it was a PA.
XW STILL doesn't want to acknowledge the role her dismissiveness and trivialization of my concerns played in that coming to be.
And now she is DONE. I have found a great deal of comfort in renewing my faith, in knowing I have NOT fallen into Satan's trap of anger, in remaining open to reconciliation and in TRYING not to pressure her. So many times I have come to this board and read of people restraining themselves and NOT saying/doing something. I hope I can be as successful.
Way back when I tried to involve her in activities... the extent of her suggestions for something to go do was going to the movies... Yeah, right, I sit in a dark room 5 days a week and on my day off when it's a stunningly beautiful day outside I want to .... go to the movies??? HUH? So often I hear about wives that can't get their husbands to do anything w/ them. What about the reverse?
