Quote: Mrs.C seemed to be a pretty level headed person in her posts. I don't see any wackyness even though I don't happen to agree with her position. I think she is enjoying the attention and the adventure of it all. Keep in mind, she has been in a M/R that she believes has not met her needs. Maybe she is just playing with him, just like a new toy ? I just can't see anyone flying off leaving kids, friends and family for a complete stranger no matter how steamy the emails get. I'm not saying it can't happen, I'm just saying it must be very very rare.
My W did. There are at least two other people on this board whose W did.
She was 'level headed' and 'intelligent' and all the things you say. The endorphins of 'in love' screw all that up.
This happens between two people who are emotionally immature and have learned to get their needs fulfilled by others rather than themselves.
After they get together and decided it is 'true love' they proceeded to live in the cloud of 'in love' and make plans to 'be together' like some tragic love story. They ignored their family, kids, jobs all so they can be in pursuit of this long distance romance.
Real people do not fall 'in love' over the phone or through E-mail. All there is is a fantasy person - the real person is someone else entirely.
My W was on the phone or IM'ing 'Mr Wonderful' all the time. Unfortunatly he was banging his girlfriend (who he told W he left - for her) and of course, he never came to see HER but got the benefit of her paying to fly to see HIM. Get the picture?
I think you are being naiive in this case, and certainly are not speaking from a position of experience. There are many of us who have experience in this kind of behavior and it IS a bad thing. There ARE men (and women) who get their emotional 'fix' from others like this. The sad part is that Striker believes he feels what he feels, yet he goes from woman to woman trying to fill that empty spot inside.
She is just the next victim.
And no, I don't think he is a murderer. He is just screwed up like so many people are. Ceratinly his integrity is poor at best.
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