I was thinking about what kind of "man" would do something like this and a couple of words from my days in the Air Force came to mind.
1) He's a p*ssy.
If he was "all that" why the hell isn't he flying over here to see her? That's the gentlemanly thing to do, you know. A real man that had some real substance would have knocked on Cherish's door and talked man to man. He thinks it best to keep that ocean between him and Cherish. Since he's a p*ssy.
2) He's a deadbeat.
I bet he's broke. Why else would he be trying to pick up another man's wife? If he can snow her, he'll be the "victor" to whom all the "spoils" would go...that's how he thinks. Because he's a deadbeat.
Protect yourself and your assets Cherish. Talk to an attorney if she gets on that plane. I can't recall if you're both living in the home but if so, she shouldn't be allowed to just waltz back in after deserting her family. Read closely.