I'm sorry, but not surprised your in this situation. I could almost see the writing on the wall, but didn't say anything. Whenever I thought my situation with my WAW was the worst situation any person could be in, I turned to this board and read even more disturbing and hurtful things human beings are capable of doing to one another. I realized then that maybe my situation wasn't as bad as it could be even though my W is and has been visiting a convicted murderer in a prison an hours drive away.
Now you might understand what I mean about not having a choice but to "walk away" from it to protect yourself emotionally. In my case, I had to walk away but keep VERY close tabs because her bizarre choices and actions in life could effect the personal safety of my kids. This man is currently up for a full parole board hearing. I've made it very clear to her that there will absolutely be trouble in her's and his's life if my kids are exposed to this man. I believe a person could change for the better and reform themselves, but my kids are not going to be the proving grounds for that. You have to set boundaries and rules as far as your children are concerned and make them clear to her. You can't control her actions, but you are obligated to protect your children from them should they pose a risk.
I'm sorry to say your in for a long and painful journey. As bachelorhood has been thrust upon me, I have declared a "code of conduct" to live my life by and my number one rule is not to date a married woman or date a women who is separated, divorced, or dating a friend of mine. This fellow obviously doesn't have any respect for himself considering there are millions of "unattached" woman out there dying for some good company.
I truly believe in karma and what goes around comes around. Both this Man and your W will get theirs in due time I'm afraid to say.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
