I talked to H about the phone call, and he wasn't happy about it, because now I know the details about the A, and know that he lied about it all the time. Also in talking to the OW H, we decided that there had been occasions in the past where they had been involved, for example, catching them in an embrace, however we were both too dumb or in denial to think anything of it. Of course, my H denies any prior involvement, but became really quiet and wouldn't really talk about it. I will never, ever trust him again. I think that if it did happen again, I couldn't cope and really would not want him around. Is there truth to once a cheater always a cheater?????