Hi. Very good advice there. You guys have really helped me. The H of my friend(ex-friend) phoned me today to see how I was doing, the first contact I have had with him. We both talked about the lack of trust that we both have now for our spouses. He opened old wounds by telling me what he saw when he walked in and found them. In a way, closure for me. I have told him that I can forgive her, but he said that we will not ever see them again. So, I mourn the loss of our familes friendship. Benwa, you helped me realize that I perhaps need to probably greive my dad's death as I really haven't been able to do that as I was thrown into the devastation of the A. My heart goes out to all of you and thanks for the support. This website has really helped just realizing that I am not alone in these crazy feelings.
