Just know, as someone who has been going through this for 1 whole year ( on 8/27) that it will take time for everything. It is going to take a boatlaod of time to get over your sadness, anger, hatred, rensentment, all of it.. Just be patient - that is my motto these days...
I am so sorry for you - I think my sitch sucks, but WOW - again - holy sh*t!!! You will be fine, though... Just know that EVERY emotion you have is TOTALLY normal. Just get through them... Be thruthfull to yourself and your H and things will work out...