Mommyhurting...That is great advice, thanks for that. As far as him admitting it, well, that was only after me confronting with my suspicions. And then it was, oh, well, we weren't even naked, blah, blah, blah. But you see, the H of my bestfriend walked in and caught them and there was this big brouhaha. So, I'm thinking..there must be more to this. Anyhoo..after further diggin, he eventually admitted that they did go to bed together, but said he was able to stop. Now, I don't think there is a man on this planet who could stop. So, anyway, once I got the letter from my friend, I had him read it. I told him I was so angry at him because he lied to me. I got the usual"oh, I didn't want to hurt you" HELLO...TOO LATE FOR THAT! Anyway, I can see you point about the dad/funeral thing. Thanks. I am really sorry about your situation too, I hope you can work things out. It has really helped me coming to this website, it makes my own situation pale compared to others.