Inlaw is promoting H's affair!

[ReDesigner]

Dear StrongNSassy,
Thank you for your groundedness. I've let this anger subside for a few days. There's nothing worse than feeling someone's harming your child and you're pretty defenseless to do anything! My mother bear came out and I just wanted to rip a strip off this stupid woman.

In the end, after visiting our pastor, he basically told me why waste money on a long distance phone call to her? She's not changed in all these years. She's still as insensitive and ridiculous as the first time she upset me.

With that and all the posts, I decided that I had made a wish before that she would get what was due to her. She did. She is married to my husband's brother and they've had marital discord now for the past 9 years themselves. I'm sure that this is probably appropriate punishment enough. I don't know if he ever cheated on her, but since it's "in the family" then, it wouldn't realy surprise me and she'd have a first hand opportunity to learn what it feels like.

Thank you for your guidance.

I'm moving my D into our new apartment this week. I haven't told my H anything more than I want our D to be closer to her new school. He hasn't heard my sorry reason -- that his adultery stabs me in the heart every time he leaves the house to call the OW or walks outside on the deck to whisper in secret. I just can't continue to expose myself to the abuse. He did it again yesterday, but this time, I have to admit, I blew it. I screamed at him - was he talking to that s--t again! He then got off the phone to tell me I didn't have to be so rude. I told him I didn't know any other term for a woman like her and what she was doing with a married man. That's usually what they're called. He calmly added that he was having a private conversation. I shot back that if it was a decent conversation, he would be on the phone in the same room as I. Since he walked out on the deck, if he couldn't talk in front of me, it was cheating. Simple as that! He didn't reply.

I don't think that was exactly DB, but the truth. He couldn't stand to hear the truth, so he left... at least that was how I interpreted it. He seems to continue thinking he can do what he likes, when he likes totally disregarding my feelings and my dignity. I guess, I'd just had it. He wants the best of both worlds and that's why I'm so glad to be moving out of his sick one and on my own.

I don't know that time-apart is a DB tactic, but it's happening for my sanity, anyway.