Inlaw is promoting H's affair!

[Sandy_wants_to_try]

Tough situation! Truthfully, I think family matters already become so complicated with separations and DBing etc... We probably shouldn't do anything to make it worse. Guess that's why we're supposed to DB the family too, not just S.

If/when you get back, how much of a problem will you have? Or even, could this become just another obstacle to getting back together, later on in the future?

In the end, I guess the best to use the old "Will it help you get your goals or will it hinder your efforts" question.
Do you think you would be able to take the high road on this? Who cares about this woman? Just make sure your D is OK, and realizes that what her aunt says doesn't mean anything and get on with life.
It's a good example to give your D too... Don't get mixed up in the messes of emotionally stupid people.