Your day will come, Mama...it will come. Not so quickly, though. You both need to feel safe before having that conversation...and I think H needs to come to terms with it for himself before approaching you. I still think he's a mess partly b/c he is waking up again, wondering why he did what he did.
I agree with PL SO MUCH....that their characters now (esp. the MLC ones) is so in contradiction to their previous values. My H NEVER lied...HATED lying...now is a pro at it...and I think he hates that. He blew at me as well, for implying he was lying. It's sad, I wonder if it's now a permanent character trait, or do they lose it once they pop out of MLC?
I read once that when spouses go through this, what they turn into is a split from their strengths, not flaws.....whch creates the inner conflict or crisis. That makes sense.
