****We all deserve a hell of a lot more than we're getting for sticking around these undeserving wretches!

Well deserve has nothing to do with it. In life we deserve nothing. However respect does. I have the utmost respect for the LBS fighting for his/her marriage. Y'all are some strong folks.

****But how long do we wait?

I wonder that too reading all these situations. Where is the Rubicon?

****Whether or not she deserves that kind of loyalty is another question.

Deserve has nothing to do with it.

****But I know in my heart that I can't quit until I know there is absolutely nothing more I can do.

That is what makes you a good man.

****I think that describes you too, Mama. So vent here and then just keep on fighting the good fight

It does describe you Strongbear.

Whatisis...you have some good words of wisdom.

Strongbear,

You won a big battle. The war is not over.

****I want him to purge his soul to me and beg forgivness and tell me that I am the greatest thing that ever happened to him in his life!!! Is that asking too much?

Right now it is. Is that fair...no

****I feel like he tolerates me and can't wait to either go to bed or go to work. Is this my mind spinning things?

He probably feels like he did the right thing and is relegated to his blah life now. This is your chance to show him it is not blah. Give him and show him a reason to love you.

Again he is in the wrong. However you fight is not over. You need to be even stronger and now than you were before. FIGHT for you marriage. Put yourself aside. When you do, he will fall in love with you and crawl on his knees begging you to forgive him.

****Should I just be MORE patient and hope for the best?

NO keep on working on your marriage. He is back. That is great. That's a good thing. For now, put the affair aside. Do everything you can to make him fall in love with you.

I have gotten e-mails and read situations where the WAS came back. It was all happy for about a week then it sucked. THAT is where the work begins. HE is not capable of it now. YOU are. Don't have a pity party and feel an entitlement. Even though you have every right to...it is a detriment now.

Strongbear YOU have to make this work. He cannot. Don't depend on him to. If you do, you will be disappointed.