Give it some more time and take a long hard look at yourself. Do you blame yourself for this again? Is there something you can do to forgive yourself for this? I know this is not easy for you - but try and acknowledge that this is even more difficult for him, even if he did get himself into this situation.
If this is being swept under the rug then your relationship has not started anew. Give it time so he can become disentangled with OW completely and then start your new relationship. You will address this in time - it's very important that you talk it through. Hang in there!
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
