****Accept it for what it is and DO NOT allow it to build a whole new set of expectations for him to fail to meet.

I agree with GH. The whole ML thing is great. It is a good thing, but the work has just begun.

ML is a step in the right direction, but it does not solve everything overnight. Accept the good from it, but don't look too much into it either.

You and your hubby have a long way to go to get to a happy marriage, but you are on that path. That's good too.