Hey Mama...been a while since I posted, but I am happy to hear that OW might be outta the picture....but you gotta remember to keep up the work as usual and not take anything forgranted.....keep up the detachment while he works through the residual stuff, and keep yourself strong for any whackiness that may come as part of this stage.
I have no idea what the MLC A vs the non-MLC A is like...but others say that withdrawal is part of it, as well as a HUGE dose of reality and guilt. Like we have seen Jokerman say here, he was hit with reality to see who OW was and also guilt in what he did and how much he almost threw away....that's sobering. So, give him some space...he's getting his gears back in life right now, thinking about restoring intimacy is the last thing if he is feeling guilty.
In a way you should feel good that he can't hop right back to you without this period of guilt and emotions...that means he cares and realizes what he almost lost.
Quote: In a way you should feel good that he can't hop right back to you without this period of guilt and emotions...that means he cares and realizes what he almost lost.
Thanks for putting it that way. It makes me see things in a whole different perspective. One thing for sure is I will never take anyone or anything for granted again
....and it also means he is not manipulating you. If he jumped right back in and it was like it used to be, you should be worried. Remorse has ramifications. He may be dealing with that now.
Here is my horoscope for today, sure would like there to be some truth to it:
Quote: Putting your certain someone first feels as good as or better than looking out for Number One now -- not to mention that they'll absolutely love it. You're so good at it they'll think you're reading their mind.
The hunger, impatience and irritation you've been feeling lately is about to come to an end. You're entering a new phase of reward and contentedness. It's very important for you to keep your eyes open and look for opportunities. This may require you to push situations in certain directions. But as long as you respect other people's comfort zones, you should feel free to urge things along in whatever way you see fit. Just be prepared for people to maintain their own motivations
Quote: The hunger, impatience and irritation you've been feeling lately ....
It's like someone took the words right out of my mouth. GH? Do you write horoscopes for a living? - lol!
Because if it does I am more than happy for you! Most of us LBS are still battery operated So if this is what I think it is, whoopee!! If not, keep us posted
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
Quote: Hi Mama, Does this mean what I think it means? !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was wondering who was going to get it. Yes, it means what you think it means. I am so happy!!!! Today was a little awkward, I don't think he wants to "talk" about it. I didn't push the issue. Why would I? It is the first time that I haven't been "battery operated" in about 10 months, for God's sake!!! I really think things are heading in the right direction for us. I of course worry about how I was (compared to HER, ughhh). H was off for the last 4 days in which time we redid our kitchen. He kept making comments about other house projects we need to do and how it will be much easier now to redo our kitchen in the next 5 or 6 years. All things that lead me to believe he wants to be around here for awhile.
Anyway, last night was fantastic. I had absolutely no expectations and no inhibitions. Very 180 for me. I love my body, something that has only happened to me because of the crisis in my M. I will admit that I have put on a couple of pounds and wish H could have seen me naked about 5 months ago but never the less...I am very happy with myself and how I look and that is all that matters. Today, as a matter of fact I got picked up at the grocery store. It was so weird yet so flattering. Also, everyone at my new job thinks I am under 35 (I am 43), I keep joking that it must be the dim lighting.
Will let you know if we "connect" again. I am sorry if I beat some of you to the punch, so to speak, but it is only a matter of time. A few of us have been on this board together for the same amount of time and I am hoping that we will find our true happiness together too!
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