Then you need to stop feeding the hurt and resentment and start thinking about what it will look like when your husband loves you. Think about what your marriage will be like when it's full of love. What will indicate that it's there, or that you're closer to your goal? It doesn't sound magical or incredibly emotional, but it's straight out of the books. It's why we're all here, because we believe this method works. So give it a try, and once you have a clear picture of this (WRITE IT DOWN) and your H is in a place where he's receptive to it, communicate this to him. Negotiate it. Set goals so you both are aware of your progress and intentions and work towards the same end - your mutual happiness together.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
