Mama is still pluggin' along...

[PositivelyListening]

Hi MamaBear, I am so proud of you in your new job!!! WOOO HOOO! I wish I could be there to celebrate with you! I think it is just what you need right now, hanging out with young energetic people, and getting a little break from the domestic scene. And more money is always nice too

But best of all, I am so happy to hear that you think your sitch is turning around. I think your intuition is the best indicator of what is really going on. I do hope though, that you will have some conversations with H about what you need and want at some point. Including H revealing what you need to know. It is not going to be all up to you forever to make the marriage work. You will need to begin to express your wants and needs inside the M so you are fulfilled and reassured. Also, H needs to see your confidence and see that you deserve the truth, respect, and to have your needs met. Otherwise his straying won't be because you weren't great, it will be because H took you for granted. H needs to get at some point what a loss it would be if YOU were not there, and he needs to begin to cherish and take care of you. You will know when the time is right for these conversations, but make sure you have them. You can not afford to have your M go flat, back to the way it was. You must think about what you want and deserve and not settle for less. OK, Mama? So be grateful H is turning around, but keep your eye on the prize - a healthy reinvigorated new marriage.