Quote: Well, Hopefull Husband , I don't know how to start. Unfortunately, neither do I. My W is definitely a tough nut to crack. Please read my next post and I'll fill you in on more 'stuff' in my sitch. You are doing everything 100% correct in my opinion. Everything. Thank you. I appreciate your vote of confidence. My 100% of doing things correctly has gotten me 0% of REAL positive movement out of my W. You have both feet on the ground, you are working on you. And THAT is my sole consolation. I have worked on my learning about and improving myself tirelessly. My W asked me one time why I was working on myself so much? I told her, my self-help work is my gift to me. I get to keep my improvements in me regardless of what happens between us. What can I tell you bud. You are doing things right. Everything right, IMO. I am of the mind that EVERYTHING I am doing is correct. I have worked diligently to show my W patience, kindness, love, respect and honesty, because that is what she deserves. I have stayed in my authentic self, acting from love, intgegrity, honesty, patience, understanding and now, most importantly, <b>respect for myself</b>. I have kept my backsliding to a minimum even thought I am going through the toughest personal crisis of my life. And mosst importantly, I have focused on the two innocents in my life, my beautiful and perfect children, who have kept me grounded, sane, and pointed in the right direction.
I agree with the detaching, LRT. Give her a taste of the D before it happens. That's where I'm at right now too. Please see my next post. And best of luck to you in your sitch.
Stay the course! I WILL! Necessity HAS forced a change in strategy on my though. I am not giving up as of yet, but my sitch must change dramatically OR I must remove myself from harm's way as much as possible.
Alaska
Thank you, My Friend,
HH
P.S. Keep focused on your own well being. THAT is your gift to YOU. I came to THAT realization and to the realization that if I didn't make changes in myself, that I would have nothing different and better to offer to my W should she have a change of heart and change her mind. I also have the luxury of two fantastic children to keep me focused on what is truly necessary for me to feel successful in MY life, which is to raise happy, healthy, whole children.
